The 'LOSER'
URBAN DEFINITION OF
THAT CLASSIC 'Loser'
Every culture has a name for
that particular character,
ranging from ponce to low life
to a cockroach,sadistic,debased
the modern day street definition
(urban) is
"someone who doesn't know
what they have and screwed it
up (to be polite)
they are always making bad
choices,and screw up (to be polite)
their's and everyone's lives
around them
there are easier expressions
that sum up this person ie
'dumb idiots,'dumb asses or
just plain 'd--k h--d'
What then is a 'loser'.
a loser,is someone who does
not trust,love,and/or respect
others
If you have no integrity,and
nothing but your own interest
in mind,you are a 'loser'
regardless of your social status.
INHIBITED INTEGRITY.
1) a loser,is very quick to tell
you,that he loves you,talking
about a long-term relationship
and future together.
even discuss moving in with
you,yes he has targeted that
particular female.
whatever he says,means very
little to him,he lives in a
FANTASY WORLD,where
nothing is real to him.
a loser,has extremely superficial
emotions,and capable of falling
in and out of love,on a whim.
2) from calling and texting
you daily,you may suddenly
not hear from a loser,for days
or weeks on end,
he behaves as if nothing has
happened,and expects to pick
up the relationship exactly
where you left off.
FRIEND and FAMILY
3) It goes without saying,persons
closest to you,ie family and
friends,may spot the signs and
try to alert you,to their concerns.
they are the ones that sees how
he treats you,
they are the ones that see the
effect,that he has on you.
they are the ones that see,
how dating this 'guy' has changed
you,into a shadow of yourself
4) his actions do not match his
words,a loser has the tendency
to say one thing but,do the
complete opposite.
he also has a habit of lying,
albeit badly at times,
he will never admit that he was
lying,even if he is
CAUGHT RED HANDED.
a 'loser' is self-obsessed,and
only cares about himself,and
HIS IMAGE
he also likes to talk about himself
and rarely lets people speak,
unless it is to shower him with
praise.
he expresses,very little in life,
family,friends,work or your
activities and interests.
remember,your role is to make
him feel good about him
5) a 'loser' lacks empathy,and
does not stop for one moment
to consider,how his actions affect
you.
his inability to accept criticism
also means that he is
NEVER WRONG
any attempt by you to
CHALLENGE his wrongdoings,
will simply result in feelings of
anger and self-pity on his part
6) a 'loser',will openly
criticise and embarrass you in
public
do his very best,to make you feel
worthless,so that he can feel
SUPERIOR TO YOU.
this make you easier to control,
as you begin to have feelings of
self-doubt
you will eventually reach a point
where you feel worthless.
this is exactly where the 'loser'
wants you to be
7) he (the loser) doesn't want
you to succeed at anything,as
this would make you better than
him.
HE IS SECRETLY
SETTING YOU UP TO FAIL
AT EVERYTHING YOU DO
The most important thing to
remember,is that the problem
is not with you.
see the 'loser' for the person
he actually is,not the person
you want him to be.
